What Is Sex and What Does Sex Mean to You?
To be honest, I am very confused about sex, so I googled a lot about “what is sex”, clearly, it’s a tough question, I don’t find the “right” answer, so I collected some opinions from people who loved to share. It really helps me better understand sex and I hope these thoughts could also help you.
“I see sex as something brought about by a deep desire to connect and be intimate with someone. Not necessarily emotional but to satisfy an urge driven by instinct. However I can see that many, many people are getting sex as an ego boost or an addiction because sex is the only time in life that they feel relaxed or powerful. Sex is built up by society as the pinnacle of what it means to be a man or to be wanted.” ---Stevenson
“I could have sex with anyone im attracted to and really enjoy it. But when you are in love with someone it takes it to another level. For me I’d rather have sex with someone I love over any other sex.” ---Eva
“Not much besides a good time. I've never felt any of those deep attachment feelings associated with sex, it's just a fun facet of a relationship.” ---Anonymous
“An extremely physically and emotionally intimate act that I want to do with a special person.” ---Anonymous
“I trust you. I love you.” ---Anonymous
“With the wrong person; uncomfortable self-consciousness, profound disappointment, awkwardness, lack of satisfaction... with someone I love, everything from playful, fun self expression and an epic pleasurable workout, through to a physical expression of our connected souls; the most beautiful transcendent oblivion, where time and space and self disappear.” ---Anonymous
“I never have but when i do, its going to be with someone who i love and trust fully, and who feels the same way” ---Anonymous
“Sex means very little to me. Married (2nd time) nearly 30 years. Sex was great for the first 20 or so but as we aged, both of us developed health issues where prescribed medications resulted in low sex drive, and difficulty orgasming. So then it became a lot of effort for minimal reward.
We are still close but just less physical. My spouse doesn't want to start something I can't finish. And her attitude about it is "meh" . We're both way beyond the point where sex is a necessary pleasure, just fond memories.” ---Anonymous
“It used to mean nothing. Just an act that made me feel something for a split second. Then I met someone who made it something else entirely. It's raw love that connects two people on a deeply spiritual level.” ---Anonymous
“There was a time where it didn’t really mean anything to me. I gave myself to anyone that would have me and at first it was boosting my confidence but in the end ruined my self esteem and I still struggle with it. I lost my virginity to a stranger and continued to have sex with people I didn’t know or trust. Most of it was awful too. So idk what it meant then, maybe someone here will be able to explain it better.
But now that I have a bf I love, sex is so so much more and it’s so special. Not only is it pleasurable for me, but seeing him get that too makes me so so happy. It’s an extra level of intimacy for us. Makes me wish I was a virgin when I met him so it could’ve been more special than my first time.
I suppose we learn from our mistakes.” ---Anonymous
“In 20s and 30s sex was pure love and connection.
Now in 40s I want to be seen and feel pretty, hot and sexy..where the man is consumed by my body.... every once in a while when husband of 16 years shows it, it drives me crazy.” ---Anonymous
“It is an extremely intimate and sacred act during which you and your partner are trying to make the other feel the best way possible.” ---Anonymous
“Sex is when people do things to sexually stimulate each other where the intended goal is an orgasm. I think that about covers it, and it makes it so that kissing and similar things don't fall under "sex." ---Anonymous
“Oral sex is sex. That is why it is called oral sex. There are times when in context, sex is taken to mean penetrative sex, but that doesn't mean other types of sex aren't sex. I would define sex as any activity where multiple people are touching each other with the aim of orgasm or genital stimulation.” ---Anonymous
“Sex to me is any penetrative action (anal, intercourse) as well as oral.
I look at other acts like touching, masturbating, and some forms of foreplay as sexual in nature but not sex.
I don't think masturbating someone (i.e. partner, spouse) is "sex", just sexual. However, sex can mean different things to different people.” ---Anonymous
Sex is one of the most personal and complex topics we experience as humans — and defining it isn't as straightforward as it might seem. In this post, I explored the question “What is sex?” not through textbooks or technical definitions, but through real voices from people willing to share their perspectives.
From seeing sex as a raw physical connection or a source of fun, to treating it as a sacred act of love, the meanings vary wildly. Some connect deeply with their partner through sex; others see it as simply pleasurable or even meaningless at times. For a few, it's tied to emotional vulnerability or past regrets. For others, it evolves with age, relationships, and life experiences.
The common thread? Sex means different things to different people — and that’s okay. It’s shaped by who we are, who we’re with, and where we are in life. Whether it’s about intimacy, validation, love, or self-expression, everyone’s definition is valid.
This blog isn’t here to give you a “right” answer — but hopefully, these honest reflections help you understand your own feelings about sex a little better.
